On Your Own Or With Help: Part 4 of 7: Should I Get Help From My Spouse?
Do you sometimes wonder if you can get organized by yourself or if you’ll need someone’s help and, if so, who the best person might be? If that’s the case, this series will help you find your answer.
Are you wondering if you should get organizing help from your spouse? If this question makes you shake in your boots, probably not. If the task or goal of organizing is going to cause great stress and possibly division between the two of you, I would definitely look for help from someone else because the relationship between the two of you is more important than the task or goal of being organized. You will find recommendations on others who might be able to help you as you continue to read this series.
If the title of this blog post, however, intrigues you, please read on. The following will help you and your spouse move through the organizing process more smoothly, together.
You will want to:
seek to listen to and understand each other’s viewpoint.
respect each other.
realize it is ok to have different ideas or ways of doing things; different doesn’t necessarily mean one is right and the other is wrong, it just means different.
seek to successfully make decisions together.
embrace compromise.
pursue what’s best for “us” vs “me.”
If you are both willing to do the above, you will probably do very well working on this together and will each be able to bring your own unique strengths to your organizing activities. You might want to begin by discussing your top 1-3 desires for the organizing project you want to tackle first and come to some agreement on your goals so you will be on the same page.
In upcoming parts of this series we’ll explore:
Part 5 - Should I Get Organizing Help from My Kids?
Part 6 - Should I Get Organizing Help from a Friend?
Part 7 - Should I Get Help from a Professional Organizer?
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